Imbracata ca o mama

Imbracata ca o mama

Iata si ultima tinuta din seria dedicata lansarii modelului Moon Flowers, formata dintr-o rochie cu a carei lungime efectiv m-am dezobisnuit. Pai, ce, asa se imbraca o mama?!?

EN: Here’s the latest outfit dedicated to the launch of the Moon Flowers model, made up from a dress with a size I am not used to anymore. Is this what a mother dresses like?

Am dat de aceasta rochie in dressingul meu mult dupa ce aveam deja prototipul noii genti Moon Flowers gata. Se potrivesc atat de bine, incat am ales sa le port impreuna – asa cum ati remarcat probabil – chiar in lookbook-ul de lansare.

Am pus rochia pe mine inainte de sedinta foto, m-am bucurat ca inca imi vine turnata – desi e cumparata cu cativa ani inainte de a ramane insarcinata – si m-am uitat in oglinda: “Doamneeee! Cat de scurta eeeeee!”

Sa ne intelegem, port sorturi chiar mai des decat o faceam cu ani in urma, cand mi se parea ca nu arat suficient de bine, desi abia trecusem de adolescenta si nu aveam decat un strop de celulita, si ala doar daca imi strangeam ca o nebuna fiecare cuta de piele in parte. Eh, cu timpul am inceput sa fiu mai indulgenta cu micile imperfectiuni si chiar am ajuns sa ma iubesc  plac exact asa cum sunt. Dar totusi, de cand il am pe Vlad, am cam renuntat sa mai port rochii sau fuste scurte. Si asta NU pentru ca sunt mama, ci pentru ca pur si simplu mi se par incomode si de-a dreptul “riscante”, cand trebuie sa alergi, sa te cateri si sa te tavalesti prin nisip sau iarba.

Dar daca tot a venit vorba de felul in care ar trebui sa se imbrace o mama, imi spun si eu umila parere: Nu cred ca exista un “dresscode mama”. Cred ca stilul vestimentar se adapteaza odata cu varsta, in functie de schimbarile personalității, dar si formei corpului unei persoane. Dar daca eu am avut norocul sa revin imediat la forma de dinainte de a naste (FARA SA MA INFOMETEZ), nu inteleg de ce ar fi trebuit sa imi arunc toate rochiile si fustele scurte, topurile cu imprimeuri colorate si vesele ori tinutele in care ma simteam (si ma simt si acum) sexy, aproape peste noapte, doar pentru ca devenisem brusc o mama. Adica nu stiu sa fi auzit ca exista vreun numar de centimentri cu care trebuie sa se lungeasca o rochie ca sa se incadreze in noile bareme. Si desi unele dintre voi simtiti ca nici nu ar trebui deschis subiectul, va spun ca de multe ori am vazut cum lumea judeca mamele din punct de vedere al hainelor pe care aleg sa le poarte. Dupa ce ca sunt o gramada de alte capitole pentru care o mama poate fi tocata mărunt, acum chiar si hainele sa mai fie o problema? Oare chiar si pentru asta sa judecăm o mama? Voi ce parere aveti? Ar trebui ca o femeie sa isi “cuminteasca” vizibil stilul vestimentar odată ce devine mama?

Eu cred ca decența, bunul gust, simțul estetic… toate ar putea fi dobândite cu mult înainte de a face aceasta schimbare de statut, ca mai apoi tot ele sa iti ghideze noile alegeri vestimentare. Si nu in functie de ce consideră lumea potrivit sa poarte o mama.

Ma bucur cand oamenii imi spun “te îmbraci bine”, dar ma surprinde de fiecare dată când aud continuarea “…pentru o mama”. Sigur, există motive “tehnice”, de ordin practic, pentru care nu poti alege o anumită tinuta – cum ar fi rochia din imagini – cand iesi cu copilul la plimbare. Dar asta nu inseamna ca nu mai poti purta fix aceeași rochie, scurta, sexy, în care te simti femeie, si dupa ce esti mama. Pentru ca nu esti numai mama, ci esti si tot ce ai fost pana in acel moment.

Înainte să închei imi amintesc cum am rugat o fetiță sa imi deseneze o mama cu un copil pentru discursul de la TEDxEroilor si cum in desenul ei mama avea o rochie pana in pământ.

In poze port: rochie si sandale ambele H&M, geantă Moon Flowers (purtată ca plic, fără lant) cu fata detașabila Baby Blue (pe cele doua le gasiti si in Moon Flowers Mix 1). Iar tinuta in miscare o puteti urmari aici:

EN: I found this dress in my wardrobe long after I already had the prototype of the Moon Flowers clutch ready. They go so well together, that I chose to wear them together- as you could probably tell- right from the launch look book.

I put the dress on before the photo shoot, I was happy that it still fits me perfectly- even though I bought it a few years before I got pregnant- and I looked in the mirror:  “Oh my Gooood! It’s so shoooort!”

Let’s get this straight, I have been wearing shorts even more often than I used to years ago, when I thought I didn’t look good enough in them, even though I had just gone through my teenage years and I only had an ounce of cellulite, and that was just because I used to squeeze my skin like crazy. Well, as time passed, I began to be a little more accepting with my small imperfections and I have even come to love like myself exactly the way I am.  But still, ever since I have Vlad, I have kind of given up on wearing short dresses or skirts.  And that’s NOT because I am a mother, but simply because I find them uncomfortable and also “risky”, when you have to run, climb and grovel through dirt or grass.

But since the way a mother should dress like came up, I have to say my humble opinion: I don’t think there is a  ” mama dress code”. I think that the fashion style adjusts with age, based on the changes in the personality, but also in a person’s body shape. But if I was lucky enough to get back to my initial shape right away (WITHOUT STARVING MYSELF), I don’t understand why I should have thrown out all my short dresses and skirts, my tops with colored or funny prints or the outfits I used to feel (and still do now) sexy in, almost over night, just because I suddenly became a mother.  I don’t know if I have heard of a number of centimeters which should be added to the length of the dress in order to fit the new patterns. And even though some of you feel like this subject shouldn’t even be brought up, I tell you that I have often seen how people judge mothers based on the clothes they choose to wear.  There are plenty of reasons for a mother to be talked down about,should clothes also be added to the topic? We judge mothers also based on this? What do you think? Should a woman visibly “tame” her fashion style once she becomes a mum?  

I believe that decency, good taste… can all be acquired long before making such a change in statute, so that afterwards they can guide your new fashion choices. And not based on what people think a mother should wear.

I am glad when people tell me “you dress well”, but I am surprised each time when I hear the following “…for a mother”. Sure, there are “technical” reasons, practical ones, which keep you from choosing a certain outfit- as is the case with this dress in the pictures- when you go out for a walk with your child. But that doesn’t mean you can’t still wear the exact same dress, short, sexy, which makes you feel like a woman, after you become a mother. Because you’re not just a mum, you’re everything you have been before that.

Before I wrap up, I remembered how I asked a little girl to draw a mother with a child for the TEDxEroilor speech and how in her drawing the mother had a very long dress.  

In the pictures I am wearing: H&M dress and sandals, Moon Flowers clutch (worn without the chain) with the Baby Blue detachable cover (you can find both of them also in the Moon Flowers Mix 1). And above the outfit on the move.